Wednesday, September 27, 2006
Friday, September 15, 2006
Friendship
We learn about friendships in childhood, to trust, to love, to share, to care. If we can maintain good friendships at that point in our life, we will generally follow the same paterns throughout our life, as our issues keep us consistent in how we behave.
Some people seems to have many friends, while others tell that no one wants to be their friend, for no apparent reason, which of course goes to issues. People who can't make friends, or find people annoying in general, have pets instead.
Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them. Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating on a consistent basis:
- the tendency to desire what is best for each other.
- sympathy and empathy.
- honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth.
- mutual understanding.
Sometimes we meet someone and there is a special connection from the onset. It is an often a recognition on the soul level. Our frequencies match, we feel a link or special bond, and we want to spend more time together. This does not necessarily reflect a romantic relationship, though one could develop in time, if it is meant to be part of the experience. With romance, it can't be one sided. Either both people want it, or it won't work...